Dean was only 5lb 9oz when he was born at 37 weeks. At his first pediatrician appointment they said he was in the 5th percentile. That small baby didn’t last long! After that he was continuously in the 90th percentile and at his 12 month appoint he was off the charts. We constantly hear from strangers how big he is for his age. For the most part it doesn’t bother me. Although I have joked I’m going to teach him to reply, “you’re big!” But when your child is big and has developmental delays it can be uncomfortable at times.
I always worry about him and I’ve come to realize this will never change. I want so badly for him to excel at life. He is learning things, a lot of things. Dean loves a reaction. He will do anything, good or bad to get a reaction. At home we think it’s cute and funny and go along with it but when we are out I feel so judged. He doesn’t use silverware, he doesn’t talk yet, and he doesn’t sit still. Sometimes I want to just scream he’s only 1!
I used to hate getting those weekly emails with milestones. I eventually stopped reading them. As a parent and teacher I realize how different every kid is. My role is to help him continue to grow. We work with him on language development and fine motor skills. I plan on starting to work more on colors and following one step directions. I just don’t see letter and numbers and potty training in our near future and I’m ok with with that, some days. I think I just went off on way more of a rant than I intended to. I really want other parents to understand all children are different, if everyone was more accepting our children would be too. This week we have our 18 month appointment and I think I am preparing myself to hear all the things he isn’t doing.
We went to Florida for Thanksgiving and had an amazing time. It’s always so hard to come back to the cold. Wanted to share a few pics from the trip.